How invalidating another person affected communication
Satir distinguished the family member who carries the predominant symptom as the "Identified Patient," or "I. Satir (1983) believed that a pained marital relationship is likely to result in dysfunctional parenting patterns.In effect, the Identified Patient is the family member who is most affected by the pained marital relationship and most subjected to dysfunctional parenting.
Linehan recalls feeling deeply inadequate compared with her attractive and accomplished siblings. Of course I have no way of knowing the answer to this question in her case.Invalidators let it be known directly or indirectly that their target's views and feelings do not count for anything to anybody at any time or in any way.In some families, the invalidation becomes extreme, leading to physical abuse and even murder.A few months ago, a story in the New York Times about Dr. _r=2&pagewanted=all) possibly shed some light on this question. Linehan admits that when she was younger, she "attacked herself habitually, burning her wrists with cigarettes, slashing her arms, her legs, her midsection, using any sharp object she could get her hands on." She added, "I felt totally empty, like the Tin Man." Self injurious behavior and feeling empty are two of the hallmark symptoms of BPD. According to the article at least, BPD is a diagnosis "that she would have given her young self." I have only personally met Dr.Linehan once very briefly, and she was perfectly appropriate and personable.