Dating for parents of special needs kids
Talk about your conundrum with others who get it and trust yourself to make the best decision. Many of the choices you are forced to make have no right answer, just the lesser of the hard and painful wrong choices.Make it move on and once it’s made don’t rethink it. You will do your best but you won’t always get it right no matter how many sleepless nights you spend agonizing over how to handle a situation. Yes, you will screw things up sometimes despite the very best of intentions.Our kids develop on their own clock, they learn many skills late and some they never master.A wiggled toe that couldn’t wiggle before, a word, a sentence, a smile, a hug, whatever that milestone may be, share it with those who love you and your child. I know how hard it is to hear from parents that their child six months younger than yours is walking and yours isn’t.We took a page from their book and did the same at home. He played sled hockey, runs on a track team, learned to shoot archery and takes swim lessons. Read to them, snuggle with them, engage with them with what’s important in their worlds. 8) You will be obligated to make heart wrenching decisions.You will have to make painful decisions that hurt your heart and leave you questioning everything you thought you knew or understood.We have made wonderful friends and have found—and I hope provided—a great deal of support within each of these.
However try to remember that people are not making these comments to offend or upset you. Brag about those accomplishments that might seem small to others but are huge for our kids!
But our marathon will go on for the foreseeable future and beyond.
So remember, you don’t need to win, just make it to the end.
No amount of torturing yourself will make you feel better, nor will it help you to make better choices.
Remember many of the toughest decisions have no right answer.