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I can’t count the number of American/European friends who have gotten a date and/or a good time from someone they met at a nightclub.
The only downsides are the price (clubs can be anywhere from 2,000yen to 5,000yen as an entrance fee) and you really have no way of knowing if the Japanese man hitting on you is married (he often is). Friends meet friends, boyfriends wait for their girlfriends to show up.
I found there are two “types” of ways to go about finding a potential Japanese boyfriend: the “nanpa” and the friend turned boyfriend.
But before I go further, I’d like to share a comment someone posted (that resonates with me): d that you are looking not just for “exotic goods” but for someone that you will love as a whole (not just because of their ethnicity).
Japanese men will just walk right up to you and start talking.
The Hachiko exit in Shibuya is one of the iconic meeting places in Japan. People kind of just hang out around the crossing, the dog statue, and the green train (Hachiko was the dog that waiting for his owner for years at this train station, even though the owner passed away at work – and never came home. Most of the people who come up to talk to you are trying to sell you something/pass out a sample, but I’ve seen some pretty successful nanpa-ing happen at the Hachiko exit.
To increase the chances of being “nanpa-ed,” make lots of eye contact and smile. Take a train together rather than a cab, so you know where you’re going (if you’re going back to his place). A Hobby Circle or Club A hobby circle is basically a club of people with similar interests.
People who like photography get together and take pictures; writers get together and talk about writing; cooking enthusiasts get together and cook; people who like old movies get together and watch old movies.
In my year and a half in Tokyo, most of my “nanpa” attempts (when a Japanese man tries to ‘pick up’ a woman) happened in train stations.
Sometimes I was waiting for a friend, sometimes I was rushing to make a train connection.